When it comes to men and families, we as men should be the leaders of our families. I believe God has given inside the heart of every man, the seed of leadership. If the seed of leadership is in the heart of every man, I think that perhaps we as men need to water and nourish this seed of leadership and it to make it grow.
Men should be leaders in our families. We are to lead our families into the destiny God has for them. I believe that this leadership is secured and anchored in love. What is love? God is love. And if we as men are missing God, (the Lord Jesus Christ), I believe in the big picture, we will fail in the leadership of our families, homes, and communities. I believe that if we are leaders both spiritually and in love, we will pave the way for a lot of things, good things to fall in place.
Being the leader of a family means taking responsibility for their well-being. This can be quite a daunting task, which is probably why so many men have bailed out on this responsibility. The amazing thing is that God has already given us the seed for being great leaders in our families. In the face of such a task, we need not bail out on our responsibility, we need only nourish this seed that God has given us and make it grow. We don't want to be like the men that Paul spoke of in 1 Timothy 5:8 when he said "Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." God has given us the ability to live up to our full potential.
When I say leaders, a lot of us may automatically think of solely being providers, and bringing home the bacon. Yes, I do believe this is part of it, but there is so much more. We are to lead both spiritually and in love. In Deuteronomy 6:5-7 the Lord states, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up." We should be leading our households spiritually. It's our responsibility to teach our children about morality and about God, not just our wives, and not a preacher or a Sunday school teacher. We should be having studies in our own homes. We should be discussing the goodness of God with our children and our wives. Our wives should not have beg us or trick us into going to church, or into praying, or studying, we should be taking the reins. And if we do not know about such things, we need to, be a man about it, and find out how.
Also, our wives should not have to watch some chick flick, or read some love novel in the hopes of bringing some romance into the home. We as men should be leading in romance. Not lifetime, or some romance novel. We as husbands should be leading our wives in true romance.
I was thinking the other day, about how I act when I'm watching a sporting event and I know for a fact that I'm not the only one who does this. Take a group of guys watching either football or basketball, and before the game even starts, 90% of the men in the room will somehow turn into coaches. And once the game starts, everybody is coaching their team. He shouldn't have passed the ball, he should have taken the shot, they should go for the field goal, I wouldn't have traded him etc. We all act like this way when watching sports. I say this to make a point. The point is we already have leadership in us. It's there, waiting to be used for stuff that really matters. Waiting to be used to help make our families thrive. Men, the greatest team we could ever coach and lead is our family. God has given us the tools to win the title, let us trust him and his leadership for our victory.
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