A Brief Prescription for Conscious Parenting

Conscious parenting in a nutshell:

Before you tell your child not to be upset or cry, understand your own discomfort with strong emotions and tears.

Before you command your child not to touch, determine how you will help him satisfy his innate curiosity and honor his intense drive to explore his environment.

Before you try to teach your child to share, expand and deepen your own generosity of spirit.

Before you fault your child for not listening, ensure that what you are speaking is worth hearing.

Before you lecture your child not to be selfish, analyze your motives for doing so (chances are you'll find some degree of self-interest among them.)

Before you chastise your child for not telling the truth, cultivate the ability to acknowledge and accept things you don't want or like to hear.

Before you accuse your child of cheating or stealing, take a good look at the corners you feel justified in cutting because no one will notice. if you can't think of any offhand, you might start with your tax return and the speed limit.

Before you demand respect, check to see if you've been giving it -- including to your child, your spouse, your waitress, your employer, and the driver of that car moving too slow in the fast lane.

Before you discipline your child for picking on other kids,take inventory of your own desire for power and control.

Before you admonish your child to make better choices, fully infuse your own decisions with wisdom, maturity, and compassion.

Before you drill into your child that education is important, determine how you are modeling the joy and value of learning in your own daily life.

Before you send your child outside for fresh air and exercise, see if you can even remember the last time you stepped outdoors just for the pleasure of it.

Before you inform your child about 'the way things work in this world', realize that you are imposing your limited perspective on an impressionable mind, and decide whether you want to sentence this child to live within that world until he can create his own.

Before you tell your teen to be more responsible, assess how you currently allocate your own time and energy.

Before you order your teenager to straighten up and fly right, scrutinize your own vices and clarify your own path.

The wise parent leads primarily by example.